Happiness is a funny thing, isn’t it? Sometimes it feels like you have to work so much harder for it than other feelings. Like being worried, upset, sad or hungover. They all seem to happen pretty effortlessly. But happiness requires a whole lot of hard work sometimes.
When I think about happiness, I often think about Oscar Wilde and the story of the Nightingale and the Rose:
“Ah, on what little things does happiness depend! I have read all that the wise men have written, and all the secrets of philosophy are mine, yet for want of a red rose is my life made wretched.”
Poor old Oscar – and the poor old nightingale. It’s a great story. And there’s a certain truth in it about never being quite satisfied with what you have (or where you are), and always seeking something else in the name of happiness.
I’ve been feeling a bit on the blue side lately. Nothing serious, but a sustained run of feeling a bit less happy and infinitely less enthusiastic than I’d like. And I’m bored of it. When I go through a grey patch I find that I get to a stage where frankly, I get a bit sick of myself , and it’s at that stage I decide I have to make changes, in order to avoid actually breaking up with myself. (That’s a whole other post that I won’t bore you with, but suffice to say, there are lists being written and plans being hatched in the background. Which is good.)
Anyway, in an effort to remind myself that Things Are Not All That Bad, and that I have lots of things to be happy about, I figured that keeping a note of the good things would be a good start. I’ve seen people all over social media taking part in 100 Happy Days and while my first reaction, if I’m honest was to roll my eyes a bit, I did find that reading them made me smile. So maybe there’s something to it.
It’s been said that taking a few minutes every day to just appreciate what you have is a good habit to get into, and I know that there is evidence that doing so, in turn, makes you happier. The problem is, I’m extremely good at lamenting what I don’t have. However, looking at the 100 Happy Days website I am extremely excited to see that partaking in this challenge can pretty much produce miracles. From the site:
“People successfully completing the challenge claimed to:
“It is not a happiness competition or a showing off contest. If you try to please / make others jealous via your pictures – you lose without even starting. Same goes for cheating.”
Well, that’s a bit of a pain, isn’t it? I’d already planned on making you all sick with jealousy with photos of myself standing in the lashing rain at GAA games or covered in muck half way up a mountain in Mayo, but I guess I’ll just have to rein that in, won’t I? And incidentally, if it’s not a competition, how can you cheat in it? Hmm.
I had not heard of this #100days thing. Thanks for pointing it out, go you.
(Actually may be a good thing for myself as well)
You’re welcome, Aafke. And unlike mine, your photos will be lovely 😉
The problem is -even if i manage 100 happy days- i won’t be online hundred days in a row.
I don’t think that really matters. I already know I won’t manage 100 in a row (real life will happily get in the way), but if I get to 100, that’ll be an achievement in itself.
Good idea, looking forward to sharing in your happiness
Thanks Joan, it’s a nice idea alright, I’m hoping it’ll be habit-forming 😉
I was very much a roll your eyes person when people first started doing it and now look at me! Some days are really hard but I vowed not to skip a day even though I am late with posting sometimes! Really looking forward to your posts! 😀
Yours was one of the ones that made me smile Limmster – I’m blaming you for this! 😉 Thank you – looking forward to it!
Good stuff, Anne-Marie, looking forward to it. I’m basically the same with the rolling of the eyes at first, but I do find myself enjoying other people’s moments from time to time. And anyway, I roll my eyes at everything the first time; I’m surprised my retinas haven’t detached.
You and me both. But life’s too short to be a cynic ALL the time, so for five minutes per day from now on I’m going to not be one.