Will the status quo really serve Mayo?

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, November 19, 2024.

As the general election looms closer, the perennial question of stability versus change confronts us again. Grappling with the possibility – nay, the likelihood – of a return to the century-long status quo – a government dominated by either Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael or both – it is past time to question whether another term for the old guard will benefit Ireland, and indeed, Mayo.  Against a backdrop of rising far-right sentiment and worsening wealth inequality, is clinging to the traditional powerhouses really the way forward?

Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael have long presented themselves as the safe choices. Experienced, capable, and pragmatic. There is an argument to be made that in an era of economic uncertainty, the new Trump presidency and ever-more polarising political movements, the country needs stability and continuity to avoid the disruption that could arise from a radical shift in power.

Indeed, Ireland has experienced notable economic growth and recovery. Unemployment has fallen, infrastructure has improved, albeit at a glacial pace, and from Ballina to Castlebar, a level of economic development that was unimaginable just a few decades ago has been achieved. So, understandably, the prospect of another ‘FFG’ coalition government feels safe, a way to preserve what we have and avoid untested alternatives.

However, this argument rests on a presumption that “more of the same” will bring continued prosperity. An assumption falls apart when we look beyond glossy headlines and politician photocalls to the realities faced by ordinary citizens across Ireland and in Mayo.

While Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael, in particular, tout their economic credentials, the truth is that their policies have consistently favoured the wealthy, exacerbating income inequality. For many in Mayo, the sense is that Dublin-centric policies have neglected rural communities. These policies have created an astounding housing crisis, and home ownership feels like an impossible dream for young people and some middle-aged people too. Rents are crippling. Social housing lists continue upwards.  

The wealth inequality gap has widened under successive Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael governments. Tax policies, cuts to public services, and a failure to address corporate loopholes have allowed the rich to get richer while leaving low and middle-income families struggling to make ends meet. Small farmers face increasing pressures, local businesses grapple with rising costs, and young families are priced out of their own communities. Access to health, mental health and disability services is abysmal, unless you can afford to pay. The outputs of an economy that works well for big business and affluent urbanites but leaves the rest of us behind.

The choice to vote for these parties again might feel like a vote for stability, but stability for whom? For the wealthy elite who benefit from their policies, or for the average Mayo family struggling to get by?

Mayo and Ireland could and should be learning the lessons of the US election; when people who are struggling are ignored, the far right makes hay. Rather than using the fear of extremism as a reason for supporting Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael, these parties should, as a matter of urgency, be engaging in some introspection to see how their policies have contributed to the rise of the dangerous, divisive ideologies and lies of the far-right.

These bad faith actors capitalise on discontent, using immigration as a scapegoat, turning communities against each other, and tapping into the anger felt by those who have been left behind by decades of neoliberal policies.

The very conditions that have allowed the far-right to gain traction—economic insecurity, lack of affordable housing, strained healthcare and education systems — are the result of policies pursued by Fianna Fáil and Fine Gael, and their repeated failures to address the needs of ordinary people that have created fertile ground for extremist rhetoric. By voting for the status quo out of fear of the far-right, we are effectively endorsing the cycle of inequality and discontent that has fuelled its rise.

Those of us who lean left in Mayo do not have much choice on the ballot paper – yet. But we do have a chance to ask ourselves and the politicians knocking on our doors whether we want a government that serves the few or one that serves the many. And after the election, those of us who want more choice will need to knuckle down and make it happen, from the grassroots up. Ireland and Mayo deserve a leadership that prioritises social and climate justice, tackles the housing crisis head-on, and invests in the future of our rural communities. Voting bears huge responsibility, not just to ourselves, but to people more vulnerable or privileged than we are ourselves – something that is frequently forgotten.

While the incumbers may offer experience, their vision of stability in this wealthy land comes at the cost of growing inequality, deepening discontent, and the dangerous rise of populist extremism. It’s time we consider alternatives that will address the root causes of these issues, rather than perpetuating a cycle of neglect.

The status quo may feel like the safe option, but safety is an illusion if it leaves so many behind. This election, let’s demand more from our leaders and make a choice for a fairer, more inclusive Ireland—one where every citizen of Mayo and Ireland, not just the privileged few, can thrive.

Can women be the deciders of the US election?

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, November 05, 2024.

Today marks the 60th US Presidential election, and arguably, the one with the most ever at stake. Reflecting, perhaps, the global downturn in social and political discourse shaped by the US social media and tech giants, this squalid campaign has highlighted how far the so-called ‘land of the free’ has fallen in recent years, and how little any country, anywhere, should aspire to its values.

Those of us across the water are watching in trepidation, because western society tends to follow where the US leads, and more hangs on this utterly depressing election than ever before. Despite the calibre of the candidates, it stands as a defining moment in global political dynamics, as this so-called developed country wrestles with the decision it must make to elect a deranged, half-witted, misogynistic orange felon with plans for a dictatorship, or not. What a damning indictment of the US education system, and of humanity in general. 

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Ireland’s shameful complicity in mass murder

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, October 22, 2024.

For a country that has long prided itself on a history of anti-colonial struggle, human rights advocacy, and support for oppressed peoples worldwide, Ireland is now in real danger of trading off its past reputation for standing on the right side of history. Fondly we recall how Irish voices rang out in opposition to Apartheid in South Africa (led by a bunch of incredible working-class people, mostly women), and how our own history of bloody colonialisation has made us particularly sensitive and sympathetic to the plight of nations struggling under foreign dominion.

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The truth? Ireland simply does not care about children

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, October 15, 2024.

Back in the economically dark days of 2012, Ireland passed the Children’s Rights Referendum, ostensibly committing to place children’s welfare at the heart of the Constitution, enshrining the protection of children, and legally prioritising their best interests. The referendum, while hailed as a milestone for children’s rights, did not inspire voters, with a measly 33.5 per cent turnout.

This apathy should have confirmed to us what Ireland has long since demonstrated. Despite this legislative milestone and what we might like to tell ourselves,, outside of our own four walls – and sometimes, not even within them – the majority of people in Ireland simply do not care about children. 

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Time for the church to pay up

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, 10 September, 2024.

It is now over three decades since the first reports of abuse by members of the Catholic Church emerged. We have heard harrowing accounts of monstrous abuse perpetuated by individuals like Fr Fortune, facilitated by the church, and reports on systemic cruelty by members of orders like the Christian Brothers.

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Castlebar needs a bold regeneration vision

Recent comments from architect Hugh Wallace, describing Castlebar as “depressing” and lacking in vision, must surely have stung. It’s not the first time Wallace has taken aim at Mayo; back in 2019, he basically suggested that we may well just turn off the lights in North Mayo and stop bothering to try, because town and city living is where it is at these days, apparently. So, the good people of Castlebar have this writer’s sympathy – it’s not nice when someone, even if they’re not all that famous, takes aim at the place you call home.

But there is nothing like it to motivate people either.  

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Paralympians don’t want patronising press

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, August 2, 2024.

The Paralympics starts tomorrow, and those of us left bereft when the Olympics ended can breathe a sigh of relief and settle back into the groove on the couch for twelve more glorious days of competitive sporting action. Ahead lies another splendid opportunity to become self-assured armchair experts, this time in 22 different sports, each diverse and spectacular in its own right.

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Ten years, 260 opinions later

This column marks my tenth year of writing for the Mayo News, which in turn, marks approximately 260 opinions shared on the pages of this paper. What a decade it has been! Over that time, the column has been a blend of the personal and the universal, and in recent years, probably more of the latter.

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Teach, Don’t Preach: Religious Discrimination in Irish Schools

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, July 30, 2024.

Picture this. You’re nervously waiting in the corridor for an interview at a finance company. You really want this leadership role. The door opens, and you’re called in. You take your seat in front of the panel. Handshakes and introductions follow; someone cracks a joke to put you at ease. You fervently hope you’ve made a good first impression. The chief executive thanks you for attending and gets the ball rolling with the first question.

“So tell us. How do you plan to uphold the Catholic ethos of this company?”

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Disempowerment disguised as reform – the Local Government Reform Act, 10 years on

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, July 19, 2024.

On 1 June 2014, The Local Government Reform Act 2014 came into being. The Act marked “the most far-reaching change in structures, functions, operational arrangements and governance in the Irish local government system” since 1899, proclaimed then Local Government Minister, Phil Hogan. “The changes that are being made are radical, but they are necessary to bring our local government system up to date and to provide the kind of service our citizens and communities deserve.”

Fast forward a decade. Has this radical reform transformed local government in Ireland for the better? You’d better believe it has not. 

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Demanding actions, not platitudes; Natasha O’Brien calls for judicial reform

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, July 2, 2024.

The country is up in arms over the suspended sentence doled out to soldier Cathal Crotty for his violent assault of Natasha O’Brien. 24 year old Natasha, meanwhile, is criticising not just the sentence itself, but the manner in which it was dispensed, the reasons given to justify it, and the insensitivity with which her case was handled by Judge Tom O’Donnell. In recent days she has led an incredibly impressive, commendable and articulate campaign to change how victims are treated in courts, describing how her own treatment retraumatised her.

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The real story of the 2024 local elections

This article appeared in the Mayo News on Tuesday, June 18, 2024.

One of the first headlines in the Irish Times in local election aftermath screamed: “Analysis: Coalition Parties surpass expectations as Sinn Féin’s slump becomes the story of the weekend”. The article, by Pat Leahy, proceeded – unsurprisingly – to revel with glee amidst the debris of Sinn Féin’s collapse.

But what’s the real story here?

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Garda bodycams – progress or privacy risk?

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, June 4, 2024.

It’s not new technology – currently, body cameras are worn by police in several jurisdictions across the globe – but a Friday, May 31 marked in a new departure in policing in Ireland as members of An Garda Síochána in five Garda stations donned them for the first time on active duty as part of a pilot designed to test both the concept and three different types of camera technology.

It’s a move that has implications for us all.

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Putting lethal weapons in children’s hands

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, May 21, 2024

Connection is a mark of modernity apparently, and in the digitally driven world of the 2020s, mobile phones are clearly ubiquitous. Seamlessly integrated into the fabric of daily life, their omnipresence offers a world of convenience and amusement at our literal fingertips, 24 hours a day.

But what about the children?

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Ballina’s misguided protests — NIMBYism, privilege and meanness

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, May 7, 2024.

Ballina celebrated its community spirit in 2023, with a year-long series of  emphasising inclusivity and togetherness. It is desperately disappointing therefore to see recent growing division in the town over the potential arrival of a few (more) International Protection Applicants (IPAs).

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Things I wish I’d been taught in school

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, April 24, 2024.

“School days are the best days of our lives” is a mantra with which so many of us grew up. Opinions will differ; this writer has fond memories for sure, but sadly they are more of the craic-in-the-corridors type rather than the intricacies of the modh coinníollach or how to solve for X when Y is … well, unfathomable. But there is little doubt that our school years set the tone for the path we create in life, and the knowledge we glean from those few years should equip us to deal with at least some of the challenges we will face.

But not all.

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Living funerals: A celebration of life or a step too far?

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, April 9, 2024.

“Morrie cried and laughed with them. And all the heartfelt things we never get to say to those we love, Morrie said that day. His “living funeral” was a rousing success.”

___ Mitch Albom, ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’.

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Referendum chaos: a €23m failure

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, March 12, 2024.

Where to start with the recent referenda?

A shambles, from start to finish, and a costly shambles, at that. Holding Friday’s Care and Family Amendment referendums cost the country – that’s us – €23 million, or the equivalent of almost 93, 000 Carers Allowance payments. Before we even start getting into the nitty-gritty of principles, votes, and campaigns, the arrogance of the government’s abysmal performance in the run-up given the level of expenditure involved speaks volumes about its regard – or lack thereof – for the electorate and our money. 

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We need to talk – again – about suicide

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, February 27, 2024.

Regular readers of this column will remember my examination before Christmas of the spend on road safety initiatives, in light of the drastic increase in road traffic accident deaths, a trend that is sadly showing no signs of reversing with 184 lives lost in 2023, and 33 so far this year as I write.

The column also questioned the relatively tiny spend on drug services in Ireland, versus road safety, given the fact that the number of deaths was over twice as high. It is apparent that while all loss of life is tragic, some kinds of tragedy are harder to acknowledge than others.

Enter suicide. In 2022, 188 people died on our roads. In that same period, there were 412 reported suicides in Ireland. The actual number is likely to be much higher. 

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So long, Leo

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, February 26, 2024.

One of my first recollections of Leo Varadkar is not political. In a now long-closed nightclub in Dublin in the mid-noughties, it was to our surprise that we realised that the energetic interloper in our dance floor circle, hands in the air, was none other than the newly elected TD for Dublin West. The no-longer-Taoiseach in waiting was in top form and well able to throw shapes. His ability to spring a surprise has not diminished since.

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Vaccination education essential in measles battle

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, February 13, 2024.

Measles is back, and sadly, the disease has already claimed a life in Ireland, the first in over 20 years. To date, nine other suspected cases of the disease among children under nine have been notified to the Health Protection Surveillance Centre (HPSC), compared to a total of four cases in 2023.

The upswing in measles here is mirrored throughout Europe, with the 30,000 cases recorded in the World Health Organization’s European region in the first ten months of 2023 representing a staggering 3,000 percent increase on 2022’s 941 cases. How did this potentially deadly ‘Victorian’ disease, which had practically been eradicated, find its way back into our homes and respiratory systems?

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Be like Brigid

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, January 30, 2024.

On this day, the 2,547th of January 2024, as hailstones rattle off the roof and darkness reigns until at least 11am, we have all surely had our fill of dark mornings, inclement weather and the general drudgery of January. But hope is on the horizon. The snowdrops are poking their heads, spring is around the corner, and – joy of joys! – the respite of a bank holiday weekend awaits.

St Brigid, I always said you were the soundest.

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The sweetness of solitude

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, January 16, 2024.

I find it quite incredible that we are already two weeks into the new year. Perhaps it’s just a side-effect of ageing, but the days, they seem to whizz by at a speed that leaves us hopelessly grasping at their shadows from the slipstream. Precious time we can never reclaim. The more mundane the hours, the faster they slip through our fingers.

2024 is shaping up to be a transformative year for your writer. A change of career is imminent, and alongside that, the shedding of old skin and growth of new side ventures.  

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The Taylor Swift Era: Why 2023 Belonged to Her

An abridged version of this article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, January 2, 2024.

2023 has been declared ‘The Year of Taylor Swift’. The pop icon’s recent anointment as TIME Magazine’s Person of the Year 2023 simply acknowledges what most of us already knew – that she is the biggest superstar on the planet, and possibly of all time.

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Punching way above his weight

This article appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, December 19, 2023.

Just when you thought the world could not get any madder, or more depressing, mutterings emanating from the cesspit formerly known as Twitter, now X, suggest that a new Presidential candidate may be emerging.  Yes, it appears that the man who did more to whip up a frenzy online ahead of the Dublin Riots on November 23, has deemed the role of statesman one of which he is worthy.

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She was going for a run.

Many of us will have spent time today thinking about the senseless, violent killing yesterday of Ashling Murphy in Tullamore, a recent teaching graduate with a life full of potential ahead. Ashling was doing nothing out of the ordinary. She was out for a run in broad daylight in a busy area after a day’s teaching, when she was set upon and violently murdered by an older man. Today, life has changed horribly and irrevocably for her family, friends and her little pupils. The thoughts of a nation are with them all, we hold their hurt and trauma in our hearts.

What can we do to make sense of it all? Not much. Some of us write, to express the anger and the bewilderment and the fear. None of us have the answers, but most of us don’t want to see this happening again, despite the sense of inevitability. If you are a man, this will probably be an uncomfortable and unpleasant read. But please read it, and sit with it, and most of all, do not take it personally.

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Lockdown calendar of online events – Ireland

A work in progress! Here’s the background.

From live music, to festivals, book clubs to online training, quizzes, workshops, art classes, literary events, make-up classes and more, here are some interesting things happening online over the coming weeks that might be of use to you or your family. Starting today!

Please note that all this information is subject to change, and I as the author of this post am not responsible for any postponements, cancellations or amendments to any of the below events. Neither is the inclusion of an event an endorsement of its content – you’re all grown-ups and can make up your own minds.

How to submit an event

  • Tag me on Twitter with a line describing your event and a link
  • Leave a comment below with a line describing your event and a link
  • Drop me an email here with with a line describing your event and a link.
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Lockdown creativity and learning – share your events here

The first post on this shockingly neglected blog in a long time … and I’m looking for your help.

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Let’s hear it for the kids of Covid

Well over a month – nearly two – into the Covid crisis, and it’s now becoming tiresome to muse upon the reality of it, or assess the impact it’s had on our daily lives and the fear it’s injected into the hearts of our communities. It has been ruminated upon at length; to the point of pure saturation; it’s now a case of adapting and turning our faces towards the future as we mourn the loss of loved ones, livelihoods and the sense of invincibility most of us were probably guilty of possessing until early March.

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The legacy of Christmas ’87

Christmas morning, 1987. A cold one, I recall. Condensation on the windows, and a hint of your breath in the air. Dark and dreary the morning might have been – indeed, it was probably still the middle of the night – but that didn’t matter. Santa had arrived!

As my father laid the fire and cleaned the bould Mr Claus’ footprints from the hearth, I vividly remember tearing open the presents. The yields were modest.  A yellow-covered hardback storybook; tales from which I still recall over three decades later. A black-haired, floral-bedecked doll, immediately named Caroline, who would remain a loyal companion for years, despite the subsequent subjecting of her lustrous curls to some unfortunate butcherings behind my mother’s back. And a couple of coloured plastic necklaces. That was all. But it was enough.

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Marking 25 years of Rape Crisis services in Mayo

A few days ago, Mayo Rape Crisis Centre marked 25 years in existence with a simple ceremony at Lough Lannagh, where the first of 25 trees were planted to mark each year of operation. While the occasion was powerful, and sang of hope and light, the ceremony was also a reminder of just how complex the conversation around rape and sexual abuse is, and how it has continued to evolve in recent years. I left feeling I had gained additional new perspectives and learned new things, but most of all, I felt humbled, hearing from the powerhouses of women who took that initial step to set up the service in what was then a very different Ireland.

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Five things we learned from the elections

There’s nothing quite like a good election, and the last couple of weeks have given many of us food for thought and conversation. Is the Green Wave real? How do we encourage greater female participation in politics? Will the Big Two dominate forever in West of Ireland politics, or does anyone have an interest in taking them on? How do new candidates persuade people to vote for them and not incumbents? Is the loss of posters a good or bad thing? And are “they” really “all the same”? We could talk all day about it and it wouldn’t get any less fascinating, but here are a few things that jumped out at me throughout the election campaign and count.

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Our World View – Through the Looking Glass

They say you should do at least one thing a week that scares you. I don’t know who ‘they’ are, but there is nothing like a good dose of paralysing nerves to make you feel alive, so when I was recently invited to open an art exhibition, it was not without some trepidation that I accepted the opportunity to be flung out of my comfort zone. Public speaking and media work has been a part of my working life for over a decade now, and while the fear of making an idiot of yourself in front of an audience never truly deserts you, I’ve reached a point where I’m relatively comfortable with and almost enjoy it. This however was something I’ve never done before, and it brought with it a sense of responsibility, given the special nature of the project.

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The damage of diet culture

Happy new year, readers! It’s that time again, when the tinsel and Christmas jumpers have vanished from the shops, to be replaced by a range of items designed to make you hate your body. Lycra, dumbbells, kettlebells, diet pills, skinny tea, diet books and magazines, protein powders. To turn on the TV or open Facebook is to be bombarded by images of skinny, muscled humans advertising weight loss programmes. Just like the relentless fake-happy-clappy magic-of-Christmas advertising onslaught since October, there is no escape. And this writer is having none of it.

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Farewell, Facebook

It’s well past lunchtime on Thursday, December 27 and I’m still in my dressing gown. Isn’t Christmas great? Tea and biscuits beside me,  I’ve  just submitted my first Mayo News column of the year (toxic January diet culture, I’m coming for you next week), and am remembering, as I do fortnightly, how much I enjoy writing and how little of it I do for fun, these days. 
I’m now in my sixth year of writing for the Mayo News and I will never not be grateful to the team there for the opportunity they gave me in 2014, particularly Edwin McGreal, Michael Duffy and the late Neill O’Neill. Somehow they thought that the ramblings they spotted here and on my various social media platforms were worth encouraging, and as a result, for over five years I have had a reason to sit down and do what I enjoy more than anything else. It is a privilege and one I never take for granted.
The turn of the year is always a time for reflection and also, for forming new habits and ditching some old ones. My attempts at new year’s resolutions are usually pretty feeble, but there is a common theme every year, and that is to attempt to spend less time online. Earlier in 2018, I made the decision to mostly quit Twitter in an attempt to claw back some time for other stuff. It is a decision I have not regretted, despite sorely missing the interaction and learning I had enjoyed on the platform for years. I still use it to auto-share blog content there, though I rarely engage. 
But online addiction does not relinquish its hold easily, so it’s time to cast off some more of the chains, and this time, it’s Facebook that needs to go.
2018 has been quite a year. It was a watershed year for women, and in Ireland, the repealing of the Eighth Amendment was one of the most historically, socially and politically significant events we will ever encounter in this country. Much of it played out on Facebook. Eight months after the campaign (mostly) concluded, its effects are still being felt on a social level, but also on a very personal level by many. World politics has been more tumultous than ever, with the Brexit storm raging, Trump breeding hate, and wars and genocides on enormous scales that barely merit a mention in the mainstream media.
Closer to home, social media is once again playing a strong role in raising awareness of social injustices such as evictions, and providing a platform for right-wing reactionaries to hijack people-powered movements. Closer to home again, outrage on local issues often trumps logic or accuracy of information.  And always, Facebook plays a pivotal role by providing the platform but absolving itself of all moral obligations or responsibility.
Personally, it was a challenging and relentlessly busy year. Yet I’m pretty sure that had I not spent considerable amounts of my spare time, scarce as it was, scrolling through my phone minding other people’s business (or being typically unable to resist a good argument!) I might have have felt a lot better mentally for it.
The conversations that take place on these platforms are simultaneously informative and misinformative, passionate and vicious, progressive and regressive, enlightening and worrying, but always mentally taxing. Alongside the nuggets of learning and food for thought, the mundane is celebrated, and most terrifyingly of all, crimes against grammar continue to mushroom. And still we scroll, and scroll, and scroll.
This year I will revisit the New Year’s resolution I make in some shape or form every year. And that is to put my time to better use, by creating, writing, volunteering, spending more time with loved ones. Planning rather than drifting, and re-introcuding some discipline. So the scrolling needs to stop. The biggest casualty of my online addiction (there is no point in denying this reality) has been my ability to focus and concentrate. In 2018, I read three books. Three. Yet I probably scrolled about ten miles on Facebook using my thumb. What a miserable tally and what an absolute waste of time.
A bit like diet culture, Facebook now feels toxic.It breeds negativity, gives a platform to liars, promotes division and judgement of others, and it thieves hours and hours of time that could be put to better use. I have always advocated the power of social media as a learning tool (and without it, I would not be in the job I am today, nor I would I be lucky enough to know a lot of brilliant people), but as of December 31, I’m done with the Big F.
I’m sure Mark Zuckerberg will lose much sleep over this, but I am far from alone in deserting the platform, when people who bought so much into these  platforms and embraced the technology early are leaving in their droves, it says something. I am tired of implicitly supporting the bad behaviour and moral bankruptcy of these tech giants by maintaining a presence. I am also tired of having my private data commoditised – something that never bothered me in the past, but I am getting quite elderly, odd and cantankerous now, so he can sod off.
I’m well aware that many people quietly depart the platform without feeling the need to write about it, but it was my friend Nick McGivney who inspired me to actually bite the bullet by posting about his own departure, and maybe this will provide food for thought for others too. Also documenting something like this means that you have to stick to it and I need all the help I can get to keep my resolve.
Inspired by Nick, a group of us plans to write a letter or two to each other throughout the year instead. Anyone wishing to stay in contact can get me by emailing thecailinrua@gmail.com. For now, I’ll continue to man a feeble attempt at an Instagram account, though given the narcicissm on that platform, I doubt it will be for much longer. And of course, anyone that knows me can pick up the phone or knock on the door. Because no matter how useful technology is, nothing will ever beat the warmth and civility a face-to-face conversation.
Thanks for the memories, Mark. Now, here’s to making some 3D ones instead.

Give a little something this week

A few years back when I found myself – sorry, made myself – unemployed in Dublin at the height of the recession, I found myself with a lot of time to fill and very little money to spend. So to keep myself busy, I embarked on a journey of exploration of the city, where I visited places of cultural and historical interest and tried new things, none of which cost very much, and blogged about them in a series rather romantically titled Dates with Dublin”. (I was single at the time, and I found that the experience of hanging out in museums with dead people was frequently surpassing some of my  romantic encounters, but enough about that.)

Around that time, in keeping with the theme of “things I always meant to do but never really got around to”, I booked myself into the Irish Blood Transfusion Clinic to give my first donation.

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What if a woman wants her place to be in the home?

Because one referendum this year just wasn’t draining enough, the slow, painstaking journey to make our Constitution fit for purpose in the modern era presents us with a new conundrum – whether a woman’s place really is in the home, and a vote on Article 41.2 is imminent in the next few months.

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When the political gets personal #8thRef

This article originally appeared in The Mayo News on Tuesday, 18th April 2018.

A relationship with a close friend came under strain a few years back, when he was adamant in his opposition to the marriage equality referendum, and I was just as adamant in my support for it. We talked, we debated, we argued, we cried (well, one of us did) and ultimately we fell out. He went his way and I went mine and we each cast our votes according to our consciences. Afterwards, we reconvened. We didn’t talk about the issue ever again. And things have changed. I see him differently now, even though he’s the same person. He sees me differently too. And I miss the way things used to be, but we can’t go back.

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Belfast Rape Trial – three small steps to change

I tried really hard this week to write about something else, something other than the verdict from Belfast last week and the subsequent reaction. But I couldn’t. Truth be told, I’ve thought about little else since the verdict.

I won’t dwell on the verdict; it’s been done to death by the amateur lawyers on Facebook. However, it has rightly been acknowledged that “not guilty” does not equate to “innocent”; and in a complex case like this, proof “beyond all reasonable doubt” always felt like a bridge too far. The only positive outcome – if there is one – is the conversations that have been started, but the time for conversation has long passed.

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#IBelieveHer – turn your anger into action

This isn’t going to be a long blog post; I’m at my desk and don’t have time to delve into the horror that is today’s verdict nor to engage with any of the misogyny that is no doubt currently polluting social media.

It is a very short post to say I BELIEVE HER. Beyond a shadow of a doubt I believe her, and so do hundreds and thousands of others.

I can’t begin to imagine the effect that the coverage of and verdict from this trial has had and will, for many years, continue to have on those who experience sexual violence. They, like many others are neglected and abandoned by the state when it comes to providing essential services.

If you’re angry today, make your anger count. Donate, so that service providers can continue to support survivors.

Support Rape Crisis Network Ireland – a fantastic organisation that advocates for survivors, informs policy-making, conducts research and collates statistics

Donate to Mayo Rape Crisis Centre

Donate to Dublin Rape Crisis Centre (Or text ‘DRCC’ to 50300 to donate €2)

Donate to Women’s Aid Ireland

Donate €4 to Rape Crisis Midwest by texting RAPE to 50300

Please feel free to add more links in the comments below if you wish.

Twitter, it’s time

Dear Anne-Marie, you have been on Twitter for

6 years, 8 months, 7 days

(since 30 May 2011)

So says “Twiage”, an app which tells you just how long its been since the last day you didn’t take part in an argument online.

I jest, but …

That duration is inaccurate in my case. I’ve actually been a Twitter user since early 2008, where it seemed like the next logical step after discussion forums. So that’s ten years in total a twitter user, with a brief hiatus in 2011. That’s a story for another post; but my second inception has felt like a lifetime in itself.

And today is my last day. 

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Don’t forget to smell the roses

May, for me is an odd month. Traditionally the time of year when the flowers appear, the languid summer evenings kick in and the sense of rebirth is strong; in all of the loveliness, there is a bittersweet pang. It’s a month of anniversaries, laced with memories of loved ones lost. The sense of time passing, like water flowing, punctuated only by the numbers on the calendar, flicking by faster each year. This year, there are some significant anniversaries. Like a birthday or a wedding date remembered, only a different type of milestone. Though none less significant.

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Withdrawal of SAVI funding an insult to sexual abuse survivors

This article was originally published in The Mayo News on 24th October 2017. 

Last week, amidst all the talk of inclement weather and hatch-battening, it was reported by Ellen Coyne in the Irish edition of The Times that Minister for Justice Charlie Flanagan had quietly reneged on a promise made by his predecessor, Frances Fitzgerald, to fund an updated report on sexual violence in Ireland. The first Sexual Assualt and Violence Report (SAVI) was carried out in 2002, and was groundbreaking both in its methodology and the insights it provided into the dark and murky world of sexual violence, as well as estimating the prevalence of the problem. (Hint: a lot more prevalent than many would like to acknowledge).

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2017 – A Pace Odyssey

Greetings, readers of this blog. Real life has been so, so busy of late that blogging has really taken a back seat.

Funnily, when I moved back to the west, I somehow imagined that life would be much less busy; that I would have more downtime. I even harboured quaint notions of writing a book. However, that’s looking more like a pipe dream at present, and in fact the opposite has proven to be the case. Continue reading

Volunteers – the people who make the world go round

Working in the tourism and development sector over the past year has taught me a lot. It has taught me that when dealing with public bodies, everything moves agonisingly, achingly slowly. Patience is a virtue. It has taught me that diplomacy is the greatest untaught skill you’ll ever need, and it has taught me that in the West of Ireland, no-one ever reads emails. But most of all it has reminded me that frequently, good things happen because good people make them happen, and more often than not, in their own time and without payment.

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Asking For It?

I’m aware that it’s been months since I last updated the blog, but I have been doing a bit of scribbling elsewhere, mainly for work and for the paper. There will be a day of retrospective column uploading happening soon. In the meantime I wrote this a couple of weeks back about consent. It was published in The Mayo News on Tuesday 16th November 2016. 

Many of you will have seen Louise O’Neill’s excellent documentary, “Asking For It” last week on RTE2 (Irish Times review of Asking for It here).  The documentary sees the acclaimed author explore the issues of consent and sexual assault in Ireland. O’Neill’s documentary is significant, in that it is probably the first time a conversation on consent has gone truly mainstream, and moved away from the feminist arena, where it has, of course, been talked about for decades.

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Walking Home Alone

In the aftermath of the Brock Turner rape case sentencing in the US, and the powerful words of the woman he assaulted, Irish women took to social media to share their own experiences of “rape culture”. From being groped in nightclubs, to catcalling, to casual” sexism in the workplace, it painted a harrowing picture of a culture that is so engrained, we often don’t think to question it. The response to this outpouring from men was interesting and mixed, and I’ll be following up with a column on that. 

In the meantime, here’s the column I had (coincidentally) written for last week’s Mayo News, on one of my own experiences.

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Women and the 2016 General Election

This column first appeared in The Mayo News on 1st March 2016. 

While the 2016 General Election campaign itself failed to set the world on fire, the public’s interest was finally ignited precisely 48 minutes after the polls closed, when the Irish Times’ exit poll gave us a hint of just how much the political landscape was set to alter.

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10 more things I’ve learned since returning west

Last June, I made the decision to take myself out of the city and head back to the bright lights – no, sorry, the dark skies – of North MayoAny regrets, you ask? No, not a single one. But adjustment does takes time and it continues to be a learning curve.

I wrote last year, just six weeks after getting back – about seven things I’d learned since returning west, and here are some more life lessons I’ve learned about relocating back to the country in the past nine months.

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ASIST Training – the aftermath

A couple of months ago I wrote about my decision to enrol for the ASIST training workshop. Devised by Living Works to enable people to deliver “suicide first aid”, the course is delivered in Ireland by the HSE (National Office for Suicide Prevention), co-ordinated by the HSE Regional Resource Officers for Suicide Prevention and most importantly, it’s available free of charge to everyone, though places are limited.

At the time, suicide was in the news (even more than usual), and it got me to thinking; if the State is going to continue to fail people who are in immediate danger of suicide – and there is no disputing that it isthen the rest of us had better damn well start equipping ourselves to deal with it, and fast.

My reasoning? Once upon a time, I told someone I was close to that I felt so low that I didn’t want to be alive any more. I can still see the look of panic in her eyes, but despite her best intentions I felt even more hopeless and alone after the conversation ended. Late that night I put on my coat, sneaked out and sat numbly for a long time in the cold by the river, weighing up the pros and the cons of being alive. I decided that the pros were few and far between and the world would probably be a better place for everyone else without me in it. But for some reason or another, I decided to go home and sleep on it. The next day brought a different conversation with someone else, with a far more positive outcome. However, many others have left their homes in a similar state of mind and never returned.

Fast forward a decade and a half, to a time when we have realised that far more people than we realise have experienced depression, mental distress or have felt suicidal. There is far less shame in talking about it now, but many of us just don’t know how. We’re afraid of putting someone under pressure, of burdening someone else with our problems, or if we’re asked for help, we’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, or not knowing where to get professional help.

Thinking about my well-meaning friend, and putting myself in her shoes, I realised that even  having felt suicidal myself in the past, all these years later if I were placed in a situation where someone told me they were suicidal, I still wouldn’t have a clue how to deal with it. Neither would I know where to look for help if faced with an emergency. Over the two days spent attending ASIST, I learned something very valuable. The help is within each of us.

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Though the HSE offers a number of workshops around the topic of suicide prevention (and I’m sure others do too), covering general awareness of and alertness to the signs of suicide, ASIST is an intervention workshop, which means that it’s designed to equip you to intervene in a situation where there is a strong and immediate risk of suicide and ensure that the person at risk is kept “safe for now”, while putting in place supports to help them through this crisis period. The workshop also trains participants to seek a shared understanding of reasons for suicide and reasons for living. For some, this can be as dramatic as “talking someone down” from a dangerous position; for others, it can be interrupting the planning process or planting uncertainty about the decision and helping them to focus on reasons for living.

So, having completed the two days’ training, what’s the verdict?

Well, first and foremost, it does what it says it will. I can confidently say I would feel far better equipped to intervene in such a situation now than I would have this time last week. Basically what the training does is:

  • attempt to explore –  and subsequently remove – your own biases and attitudes towards suicide, so that they don’t influence the intervention.
  • It gives you a clear “pathway” or model to have that conversation with someone, bearing in mind that such conversations can be long, circular and challenging.
  • It does not focus on long-term problem solving; merely a “safe for now” approach,
  • and at all times, it acknowledges the need to protect the wellbeing of the person who is intervening.

The course is two full days, though they are shorter than average with lots of breaks and plenty of tea and coffee. We had two trainers and broke into two smaller groups of about 12 people. The sessions are mostly interactive – and while many people (myself included) shy away from group work and role play in sessions like these, it’s absolutely essential to contribute, or at least to witness, if you’re to feel confident working with the model. And you will. And it’s not all doom and gloom – there are plenty of laughs too!

One incredibly important thing I felt ASIST did was  was to acknowledge that not everyone who dies by suicide has experienced mental health issues. This is a point I feel is frequently lost. It also acknowledged the effect of alcohol on our mood and decision-making. And it also acknowledged that as a caregiver, even if you intervene to keep someone “safe for now”, you may not be in a position to provide further care, and that is fine – you can seek assistance or hand over responsibility if you need, once you have intervened.

Given my own experiences I was apprehensive about attending, and make no mistake about it, the two days are tiring and emotionally draining. If you’ve recently lost someone to suicide, or felt suicidal in the past, or are feeling unwell in the present, it might not be the best environment for you. So bear that in mind, but on the other hand, learning to work your way through the model and equipping yourself with this knowledge and confidence is empowering too.

I won’t go into much more detail here, apart from to say that I would highly recommend attending this training. It’s available widely – and for free – through the HSE National Office for Suicide Prevention along with a lot of other related courses – check them out here. You’ll need to contact your local Regional Resource Officer for Suicide Prevention to get the latest local info. And please feel free to drop me a line or comment below with any questions and I’ll do my best to answer.

For those based near me in Mayo, the next ASIST training takes place in the Ballina on Tuesday 31st May and Wednesday 1st June – contact Mary for more information.